Pushing Boundaries (adult content)

Therefore, you could view this as a boundary for me when it comes to the D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationship that I share with my boyfriend, lover, partner, and Master, J.

I will admit, as I did in the aforementioned previous blog, that I’m not a perfect angel on this topic though. I have been very easy to get into a relationship with in the past, I’m rarely open to the suggestion of a one night stand, but if I’m asked out, I’m quite easy to get a yes from (in comparison to other similar females to me), and when you’ve got that yes, there’s a very good chance I’ll sleep with you not too long after. I guess that has always been my get out clause to convince myself I wasn’t having casual sex, when I actually kind of was. On top of that, I have been “the other woman” once or twice unfortunately, I am guilty of one or two “one-night stands”, and then I have had a multiple partner experience, which is something that I actually enjoyed quite a lot, and something that I’m not actually ashamed of, but something that makes my above comments fairly hypocritical.

So my boundary has always been set – no sex with others! But when recently asked about which of my boundaries has been pushed the most since I’ve been with J, and which ones I’d secretly liked to be pushed further on, this is the boundary that immediately sprang to mind.

I actually find the thought of sex with strangers an incredible turn on. And I find multiple partners, involving others in sex, and even an all out gang-bang some of the horniest and most sluttily-erotic thoughts that fairly regularly run through my mind. J loves me fantasising about these openly during sex and play. From purely hypothetical things such as meeting a random stranger in a bar (which is one of our combined favourite fantasies – us going to a bar, me sitting at the bar alone as he sits across the room, I get hit on and chatted up by various guys until he decides with our pre-determined signal which one I’m to take outside and fuck! Just fantasy, never actually happened!!). To detailed fantasies about our friends or work colleagues etc. I think every guy in my office has had a very explicit fantasy based around them in my head that has been told to J in every sordid detail!! Lol. (One of those fantasies, if anyone cares to get the basic outline, is that all the guys in the office come to work one Saturday for an office archiving clear-out, and I’m the only girl who offers to come in and help. I come in dressed very inappropriately for manual labour, end up being an incredible tease and flashing far too much as they take advantage by making me climb ladders to get to the high shelves, or crawl under desks to get things, and I think it doesn’t take a great imagination to see where the fantasy goes from there!)

But back from fantasy, and on to the reality of sex with others…

When I got together with J and it became fairly apparent that our relationship wasn’t going to be totally normal, or “vanilla”, we began to discuss various things, and I did set out to him my boundary on this matter, and he told me at the time that if I were giving myself to him, to be his sub, this boundary ultimately wasn’t really mine to set, as he’d be acquiring some “ownership perks”. And I remember at the time he used an analogy that I didn’t really think too much of at the time, but I look back on with a wry smile now. He said something along the lines of “Usually I’m the only one that drives my car, and I like the fact that I’m driving it, while others just look at it and wish they were, but sometimes, every now and again, I like to let somebody else drive my car”. I think you can understand what his analogy was getting at there, it’s not really that subtle! But he also said he’d respect my wishes for as long as I wanted him to.

And he’s kind of pushed my boundary, and tested whether it was still there and still as strong, on a regular basis ever since. Believe it or not, I was actually moderately shy and easily embarrassed when we first got together. Not painfully shy or anything like that, but a little shy – I’d get soo embarrassed when dressed up and getting wanting looks from men and dirty/jealous looks from girls. But since then he’s turned me into the biggest cock tease. I was always a bit of a flirt and a slightly sexy dresser, now I’m an outrageous flirt who dresses with the intention to leave a bulge in the trousers of every man I meet!! lol

Way back last year, you may remember my blog called “The Saturday Night Waitress” where I was the scantily clad waitress for J and his friends. Well that was an early significant milestone into pushing this boundary with his friends. He has a small group of friends that are fully aware of our/His lifestyle - a few of them have just accepted his lifestyle despite not really being into it that much, a few are interested in the D/s lifestyle but not active participants in it so they enjoy living vicariously through J to get their kinky kicks, and a couple of them would consider themselves to have a Dominant side, and have explored that either currently or previously, either inside or outside the confines of their main relationship. And with this group in the past year or so, since the very early days of small acts of exhibitionism and voyeurism and moving on from there, I’d say I’ve pretty much done everything with them other than having sex. They’ve seen me in various stages of undress, I’ve stripped for them, I’ve danced for them and with them, there’s been some moderate degree of touching both ways, I’ll even fully kiss them as if I were kissing my lover on his return from work when they come round and I meet them at the door. The furthest we have gone so far is the ultimate acts of voyeurism of me giving J a blowjob or straddling his cock and fucking him whilst they’ve been in the room and fully aware and/or watching contently.

I know J definitely feels there is room to go further down this avenue of our relationship, definitely with this group of close friends, and maybe even outside of this circle. And I don’t really have any excuses left to give as why we shouldn’t. It is something I have become interested in pursuing, my wall has slowly crumbled allowing me to see the hidden vice of inequity and excitement beyond the boundaries of my self created safe zone. And not to mention that I’m in a happy, solid, long term relationship, that offers a sturdy home base to work from and feel safe because of. And at the age of 26 now, I feel I’ve passed the stage where I’m too young, innocent and easily persuaded away from my own desires, but I’m still young enough to feel that I’m in my sexual prime and full of confidence in what and who I am. So if I want to experiment and sell my wild oats in a safe and controlled environment, is there a better time than now to do it??

J and I will have to see how things go with this going forwards. Do we plan it all out, do we work on the spur of the moment, do either of us know how far we want to take this? Maybe lots will come of it, or maybe we’ll decide together that we don’t really want to pursue that route of our relationship. Who knows -we’ve talked about it many time’s, and we’ll talk about it many more times I’m sure. Time will tell what happens, and I’m sure I’ll let you all know later on if anything develops.

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